“Bro, we need to get you a bigger bike!”: Do what fits you.

In my morning bike ride today I was cruising the trail, enjoying my journey. Then I heard the common sound of two approaching bikes passing me. The first was the man, and the second was the woman following behind.

Both people looked like they were training for a bike race, decked out in their helmets and gear with what I assume is the proper posture for bike riding. Me? I was just in a shirt, sweatpants and riding a bike that is apparently too small for me.

The man passed me, looked back and boldly said:

“Bro, we need to get you a bigger bike!”

And I oh so casually replied with a smile, ” I’m working on it!”

Then I watched the woman pass by with a smile on her face. That could either mean one of two things: She’s smiling because she agrees, or she doesn’t agree and is smiling to hide her embarrassment of the guy in front of her. Who knows.

At first, I was a bit appalled at the bold statement. I wanted to tell him where he can send the check since “we” are going to buy me a bigger bike! Doubt he’d follow through with that though.

Afterwards, his word took a different meaning with me.

What am I doing in my life that doesn’t “fit” me? Am I riding the right size “bike” that is my job? That is my hobby? That is my social life? That is my…whichever?

In my personal life, I have been a bit disgruntled with my day time job. It doesn’t fit me. I love talking to people and like that I get to be hospitable, but it feels more like something that I have to do rather than what I feel meant to do.

In spite of that, I feel that I am doing something that I am meant to do right now: WRITE! I am writing this blog post right now, and I am writing my first novel and I am absolutely loving the journey that I am on with both! I have been doing both for the better part of the last year and have not looked back since. When I write, I feel mostly happy and fulfilled, knowing that what I am doing is not just for me but for others who will encounter my words.

If you have trouble finding things to do that fit you, I have some tips that I’d like to share, if I may:

  1. Think about it. Writing was a lost passion of mine between the late 2000s and 2019. I let all of my 9 to 5 daytime jobs get in the way of me pursuing my writing career. That is until last year, where I sat and pondered on what I am passionate about. I had to think about it deeply, and then I remembered. Writing was one of my first loves that bloomed back in fourth grade. When I remembered that, I opened the sails and started to navigate with the stars again with writing.
  2. Experiment. I had the opportunity to experience creative writing in the fourth grade, many times. Some of us may not have had that opportunity. I don’t know about other countries, but in America there are PLENTY of avenues around us that allow us to try new things, develop new hobbies, and hopefully work careers that we desire to have rather than are forced to work.
  3. Want it! The bible says that faith without works is dead. While that is a spiritual truth, I do believe that it applies to all practicalities in life. If you want to become a dancer, but you sit at home and watch YouTube videos of other dancers all day without moving a muscle, you don’t want to become a dancer. If you want to lost 30 pounds by Winter, but eat chips and drink beer every single day with hitting the treadmill or lifting a weight, you don’t want to lose those pounds.
  4. Do not despise the small beginnings. I believe that I have touched on a similar tip as a blog post on this page.If so, I will touch on it again. I have come to realized that some great things take time to build. Let’s face it, Rome was not built in a day. Every journey begins with ONE step, then another follows…then another….then another.

Visit my article on 5 indicators that tell you that what you’re doing does not fit you anymore.

If you need help to decide whether or not what you are doing fits you anymore, maybe these 5 indicators will help you.

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I am a 32 year-old central floridian. I work at a 4-Diamond hotel in Florida. I live with a roommate who is so different than me, it's insane, but we make it work. Also, I am a 6'3" tall, 240 lb black, straight man who wants to blog about self-care!

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