………Okay, the title may not be entirely true.
There are some folks who do act like they live to stir things up with other people, especially family. It’s as if you’d think that they wake up and plan to start an argument and voice their opinions on every matter that doesn’t concern them.
If you are a perceptive person, you might be able to see why that person is angry and may be a little vengeful.
This is why I love watching shows like Grey’s Anatomy and The 100. Both shows are in two different genres(Medical Fiction and Sci-Fi), but the writers (to me) seem to do well with providing edge-of-your-seat drama that keeps you locked in to the story lines of each character.
I always say that I love shows that involve characters that evoke emotion out of me. Shonda Rhimes (creator of the shows Grey’s Anatomy, Private Practice, How to Get Away With Murder, and Scandal) knows how to write such characters. Characters that are filled with drama in their attitudes and in their lives. I can tell that she and her fellow co-writers are involved with the drama. They need to be in order to develop their character.
But do we want to be that character that brings drama into a situation? Yeah sure, it is great for T.V. and books, but do we want to be the one who is contentious and brings in the elephant that people see in the room?
I hope your answer is a resounding NO!
I know that I certainly don’t want to be. Do not get me wrong, I am not saying that anyone should be a pushover and be voiceless about their thoughts. What I am saying is that it is helpful for our minds to learn a few things to help you not be the one who is all about the drama:
–Be willing to learn how to listen. We already know how to say what we want to say to someone, we just need to learn how to really listen to others. When I enter into a conversation with someone, I try to keep in mind that I have only one mouth, but have two ears for a reason. That is because listening is more important than speaking.
–Try your best to be others focused. I am a selfish person in a lot of ways. I am trying not to be so much, but I have seen friends be sacrificial and generous with materialistic things and also with how they talk with people. They know that when they ask questions like, “How are you doing today?” or ” What are you up to day” and “What’s new with you?” most people are obliged to give a response. If they do respond it is with the usual thought that the person who asked the questions cares about their life.
–Don’t sweat the small stuff. If you are around someone who did one small mistake about you(as in leaving the kitchen cabinet door open), then let it go for one or maybe two times. If it’s habitual, then definitely bring it up, but try to keep your attitude at bay. People respond better to a more welcoming presence that doesn’t seem agitated already.
I hope these thoughts are helpful to you. I will like to know in what ways do you try to preserve peace between yourself and the people around you! Also, let’s talk characters! Who is a character that you love or hate?